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Whoever said patience is a virtue never had a spouse in the Navy

So, I think that is my longest title ever. However, I am all about not burying the lead. In less than 2 weeks, we find out where the Navy is sending us for the next 3-5 years. I keep trying to minimize the magnitude of this decision, but I am completely failing. You see, we have never lived anywhere more than 2 years. Chase has been splendidly bouncing around PA wherever my Master’s or doctoral degree has beckoned. Now it is my turn. The only thing we do know, at this point, is that Chase has a 99% chance of being sent to one of the three following places:

(So actually the Naval hospital will be in Bethesda, MD, but it is a mere 8 miles from DC. Plus, Bethesda doesn’t have a pretty skyline. For the sake of bloggy aesthetics, we are going with this.)


(This would be Norfolk, VA. Basically, it is the Naval capital of the world as this is where all the big boats are stored.)


(Sunny San Diego).

My anxiety is higher with this move than with others because major life events will be happening in the place where we are sent:

1) We want to actually buy a house.

The word “house” is very loosely defined, based on where the Navy decides to place us.

In Bethesda, we will be looking at more condo/town house/tiny single family dwellings.


In Norfolk, we will looking to purchase something more like this:

(For those of you who don’t have as your home page, this is Oprah’s house, and I am completely kidding.) In Norfolk, money goes a bit farther, so we will definitely have more housing options.

In contrast, if San Diego is the winner, we will be on the market for one of these:


I wish I was kidding on this one. Have you seen San Diego real estate prices? This may be dreaming too big!

2) Chase’s Career Path

If Chase gets placed in Bethesda, we will be there for 5 years and he will have a combined pediatric/neurology residency. Basically, this will almost guarantee that Chase remains stateside forever = with me = happiness.

(I like this option a whole heap!)

At San Diego and Norfolk, Chase would complete a pediatric residency in 3 years and then possibly be sent anywhere and everywhere the Navy needs him, before completing his neurology fellowship (3 additional years). This means I might have to share him with the Navy.

(I am less keen on this option, but I will totally embrace it if need be.)

3) Last, but definitely not least, Chase and I will have to make sure wherever we live has one of these:


No, I am not pregnant. However, in the next year-ish, we would like to move in that direction. This means that we will be raising our kiddies wherever we live next. Translation: I would like to be on the same coast as my Mumsie and all of our family (the East Coast).

Where would YOU want to live? Does anyone have any thoughts or insider details on the above locations?


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  1. Those 3 places are honestly amazing places, you are lucky! I’m an east coast girl, but a chance to live in the city with the best weather in the world would be so cool too!!
    I lived in Bethesda for a year or so and then when we decided we wanted to buy a place we moved out a couple more miles further from DC, but still on the metro, and love it so much more! I’m a suburban girl, so living in the crowds, congestion, and parking tickets of Bethesda was not working out. I love the DC area and you will too! If you do end up moving here, let me know if you have any questions!!

    • I have to agree–the warm, sunny weather of California is rather tempting!

      I am so glad to have you as a reference for all things DC/Bethesda! As we have been scoping out housing, we have found the best options when we look a bit outside the perimeter. Right now, I am totally rooting for that to be our destination, but I am trying not to get my hopes up too high!

  2. I’m biased, but it would be great if you moved to Bethesda! πŸ˜‰

    I can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now, but I know that things will work out the way that they are supposed to in the end! Eeek! Can’t wait to hear where you will end up moving!!

    • Colleen, if you were a fly on the wall in my apartment, you would think I was a total stalker. Whenever we talk about moving to Maryland, I always say, “Chase, Maryland would be a great location, plus I already have Colleen and Natalie, which means my bloggy friends could become real life friends…We need to move there.”

  3. Ah that must be so nerve-wracking waiting to hear where you’ll be! Even though it doesn’t sound like your ideal, I’d love to have a reason to move to San Diego! Can’t wait to hear what you guys find out!

    Regardless, we should plan a meet-up before you move away from the “wonderful” state of PA! haha

  4. Your attitude is amazing! I will hope for the best for you both.

  5. OH MY GOD!!! That is the exact picture that I modeled my original idea for our nursery off of…until I had a minor panic attack when trying to pick colours for the paint at the store and ended up going with a completely different theme!

    Good luck with the placement, wherever it might be! I know that where it ends up being is exactly where you are meant to be!

  6. Oh I just dont KNOW!?! Where do you most want it to be – Virginia!?
    In any case you are very lucky to have a husband who has worked so hard that you have a stable economic future… sounds like you two hard working brainboxes are meant for each other :). I hope you find out soon – waiting is horrible I know!
    HUGS! xox

    • I am rooting for Bethesda…but trying desperately not to get my hopes up too high! After visiting DC I was completely sold! Plus, Chase really wants to do the whole Pediatric/neurology fellowship all-in-one. Plus, it would mean we would get to stay in one place for 5 whole years–woohoo!

  7. Hang in there! I can’t empathize, but I am sure that the waiting is killing you. However, at least take heart in the fact that regardless of where you go, you’re starting a new and exciting chapter in your life! Although selfishly, if you moved to Bethesda then we could have a blog friend lunch πŸ™‚

  8. OMG, the house option for San Diego had me cracking up!! Sadly, it’s true. Real estate is outrageous there! We rent a really nice 2 bdrm/2ba condo like apartment and pay half of what I paid for my old run down 1 bdrm/shared bathroom at the beach in SD. Looking past the real estate, SD has a lot to offer and I think you would really enjoy it. You can find all the good health food stores such as TJ’s, whole foods, Henrys and it’s a really active city so lots of places to hike and run – not to mention running weather year around for you. It’s also really spread out so there are a ton of smaller communities within SD. If you have any questions about anything let me know! Also, I can get you in contact with my friend who is stationed there with her husband who is a Naval Officer. She was also my college roomie in SD and knows it very well. I think you have the right mindset and whatever happens you two will be together and that is what is most important. Luckily, all three options are still stateside and it would be much easier for your family to visit you in the states rather than in a different country. πŸ™‚ Does Chase get any say? I hope you two get your number one pick!!

    • I am glad you appreciate my San Diego housing humor! If we do get San Diego, I am totally going to rely on you for any and all tips! It is wonderful to know that there will be a military network wherever we do end up. Phew! Chase was able to rank his choices, but, in the end, whatever the navy needs is what we get.

  9. Aww! I hope y’all go to Bethesda!!! But all places seem nice! And I’d love sunny San Diego. Fingers crossed!!

  10. As tough as living so far away from family would be I would probably choose San Diego. That’s my winter hating Vermont living self talking though. Expenses would be a whole other issue though. As long as your with Chase it hopefully won’t be toooo harsh of an adjustment, but moving is always a life changing event! Best of luck with everything in these next few weeks.

  11. We’ll go through something similar in a couple years when Daniel graduates. I *hope* we have a choice, but it will depend on where the job offers are. San Diego sounds pretty nice, and since the weather is so great, it wouldn’t matter if you were living in a refrigerator box :).

    • Honestly, in comparison to the regular residency uncertainty, knowing that there is only three options is kind of nice! I just wish we had more control over what happens after that…eek!

  12. I was cracking up about your housing options! But I do wish you all the best of luck- everything will work out in the end πŸ™‚

    And for a second I thought you were preggers and got really excited! My brother is building a frog themes nursery and it is super cute!

  13. Oh. I would totally choose the option where my husband got to stay with me. And I know you would too!! Otherwise Cali sounds wonderful. DC would be cool too. Also, COLD! Lol. Good luck!!!!!! πŸ™‚

  14. Aww what an awesome post! I hope you find out soon where you will be moving so that you and Chase can get settled in your new house and have that nursery! Can’t wait to hear more about it πŸ™‚

  15. Ohmygoodness! I had no idea that such a huge decision/change was being made up for you right now. I’d be a basket case!!! I hope that it all works out perfectly for the two of you- I admire all that you have sacrificed for the whole country, thank you! …… This is huge for you two!
    Being near family is what is super important to me but with most things, I’m not in 100% control darnit! Wishing you all the best!!! πŸ™‚

  16. Wow! Hopefully you will find out soon where you will be living….i can not imagine the emotions attached to this whole process…you guys deserve so much credit! Thinking of you these next few days!

  17. Wow wow wow you are a great wife! I envy your patience and understanding πŸ™‚ I would personally pick San Diego because I am a California girl through and through, but it’s also because my family in still in Cali.

  18. 12 years ago I was in your shoes. Wow! has the time flown. The Navy is a roller coaster, but we have met the BEST people everywhere we have lived. You may email me if you like. Keep your great attitude and you both will go far.

    • Kim, thank you so much! It is nice to know that there are so many other people that are in this process, too! It sounds like you have had a good experience! I feel that as long as I stay positive, it will be a wonderful time! πŸ™‚


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